Can NLP change your spouse?

Wouldn't it be great if one could use NLP to change one's partner or spouse to be more like how one would like them to be.  That would be awesome.  I believe I may have found the way.   May I share with you an experiment I conducted between my spouse and I?             Great!

NLP teaches one to take complete responsibility for every moment of one's life.  When changes in relationships are needed, the one to change is one's self.  Some will be familiar with this advice.  However, rarely is the method for change passed along with the advice. I learned in NLP how to visualize change in myself.  So I decided to pick something that my spouse doesn't do much and I would like to see more.  We have discussed this action, but due to personal past life experiences, she finds difficultly with the request.   I have been patience over the years, but have noticed myself growing resentful .  This is certainly something she needs to change, right?  Wrong!  I decided to experiment in the NLP life changing technique.  As often as I could, I began to visualize my spouse doing the things she was reluctant to do.  I slowly began to feel better and more positive.  In time, Gone was the resentment and in its place was a positive loving feeling.  I began to notice the subtle times when she did the things I wanted but never noticed through my resentment.  I acknowledged those attempts which encouraged her to do more and then more.

Bottom line the change process started with me visualizing what I wanted. (That part was really pleasant and enjoyable)  With that, I became more positive and loving.  My spouse  picking up on my change began to feel  more positive and loving in return.

 

The most difficult part of this experiment was starting with me.  It is not always easy to start with one's self. 

I am excited to use the same process with other relationships like those difficult ones in the work place and note the changes there.

Has anyone tried this or something similar?  I would love to hear your experience.

First time hearing this, try it out and let me know how it goes.

May I share a moving experience I had while sitting at Moonstone Beach today. As I sat on a rock looking out to the sea, taking in all of God's beauty, I was given a message very timely for me. "be at peace in me always" This is something I hear often but find so very hard to do. When I asked God to give me the how, He gave me this affirmation. "Every moment of every day I am at peace in God, more and more".
The pic is now on my phone wallpaper as a reminder of the peace God wants for me.

NLP Metaphor: The Dance

Following is a story I wrote for the Metaphor exercise at the NLP training:

There was once a beautiful woman who loved to dance.  Everyone she danced for was deeply touched by her dance.  You see this woman had the ability to connect to her soul, so when she danced she projected healing energy that touched and healed everyone each at their own level.  The only people who could experience her gift of dance, however was family and friends.  The woman didn’t know for sure if she could succeed on the road with her dance.  She wanted so badly to take her dance on the road, to dance for everyone, to heal all those who experienced her dance.  You know the woman had all the resources she needed to succeed all ready; she just needed to trust her inner voice.  Finally, she took her dance on the road; she knew it was time.  At her first dance .the woman relaxed and danced with her soul just as she has always danced.  The audience became entranced with the beauty and message of her dance.  Everyone was touched and healed each according to their highest good.  The level of healing received by each person was so profound; every one told their friends and family.  Soon the woman had more dance bookings then she could fulfill.  She was more than compensated for her worth and she was so happy.  For the woman followed her life path and was destined to succeed.  The woman lived out her years happy and successful touching and healing all with her dance.

The End

NLP Day 2

I am so exhausted from the training all meaningful comment will have to wait.

Empowerment Accelerated Scholarship NLP Day 1

I have finished day one of the Accelerated Scholarship NLP practitioner certification training conducted by Dr. Matt James.  It has been an awesome day.  So much information was presented with crystal clear and precise instruction. Dr. Matt James is truly a gifted instructor.  During the “goals” instruction we were involved in an exercise to demonstrate how words, as in questions, can change one’s picture of the goal outcome.  One of my goals for becoming an NLP Practitioner is to learn to use NLP to achieve a 35 inch waist.  You might have read my experience with EFT (tapping) with the same goal.  EFT has completely removed the anxiety and frustration I had with my inability to lose waist size but hasn’t help with the losing part.  In all fairness to EFT, if I had continued with EFT sessions, that could have been resolved.  So back to the training; while I was being asked standard questions regarding my goal, one question hit me as a possible issue for my failure to lose my waist size.  I have the wrong reason.  The reason I have chosen to lose my waist size I am not truly committed too.  My conscious and unconscious mind is in conflict.  Since we learned today that the unconscious mind controls 95% of the behavior, it overrides whatever you are consciously thinking. The conscious and the unconscious mind must be aligned for a successful outcome.  Hence, that is my failure to lose my waist size.  But really it isn’t a real failure, I have just learned how not to lose waist size; learned that reasoning today as well.  So with my new found NLP guide to goal setting, I will go through the keys to achievable outcomes guide and set my goal for my new waist size with a purpose I am committed to Mind, Body and Soul/ Higher Self, Conscious and Unconscious mind.

Dr Wayne Dyer fav affrimation

This is my favorite affirmation when I feel stuck or out of sorts. I encourage you to print or jot down this... http://t.co/5O5J8Ut3 http://twitter.com/DrWayneWDyer/status/229980758301880320

Perseverance

Where can perserverance get you? Anywhere you want to go. Keep up the great work!